thanks to christie, our awesome sitter who the kids adore, we’ve had a few dates recently! we’ve only been out, just the two of us, a handful of times since moving here. it’s so nice to just walk and talk, grab tea, whatever! without the kids. sometimes the simplest errands can either take forever or not be so simple with the kids. not complaining, just the way it is sometimes. it does make me sad though when theo realizes we are trying to sneak out and abruptly bursts into tears and momma! cries.
i am calling this a ‘day date’ only because the sun was out the entire time we were out. we didn’t leave till 6 and only stayed out till 8 because matt’s knee has been giving him problems and he didn’t want to be up and about on it for long. but the point is: the sun is staying out longer! spring is on it’s way. couldn’t be happier about that. because we are procrastinators, our day date found us two days before evelyn’s birthday with no presents for her. so it consisted of play kitchen shopping after grabbing tea. i had my heart set on an adorable wooden kitchen from ikea, but toys r us is 5 blocks away so we decided to try there first. lucky for us, we found a very similar wooden kitchen, and grabbed the last one. and then it took matt 3.5 hours to put together ha!
as much as i want to give my kids everything and make them happy, i hesitate on going overboard for a few reasons. one, it’s expensive. two, i hate a bunch of plastic crap and little pieces all over our apartment. we live in a pretty tiny space, and toys go in their room, so we have a limit. and three, i’m not sure making them “happy” is actually the most beneficial thing we can give do for them. there are so many other “things” i want them to be, too. kind. aware. compassionate. thoughtful. joyful. passionate. this is hard for me. mainly because making them happy is actually quite easy, but a lot of the time it requires giving in to their whining to guarantee their momentary happiness and my immediate sanity. which is sometimes completely necessary. i believe in choosing your battles. but i’ve been thinking lately that maybe i give in to too many battles, and don’t fight the hard ones. the ones that need to be fought to help them become better people. raising kids is never simple, is it?!
hope everyone has a wonderful wednesday!